The Blessing of Children
“A child's hand in yours
what
tenderness and power arouses.
You are instantly the very touchstone
of wisdom and strength."
Marjorie Holmes
She said, “Children are for sharing. Not everyone
can have one.”
We never did. So it is a delight to share time with
these creatures of being. They are still connected to their original
face. They still play in the garden of eternity.
His name sounds as Finn. He has beautiful blue eyes
and the blondest of blond hair. He shares his name with Fionn
Mac Cumhail. This is frequently anglicised as Finn Mac Cool. Finn
Mac Cool is one of the most celebrated heroes in Irish myth.
Little Finn will be tall and beautiful. Now he is
small and beautiful. He is learning to talk. He is learning to
put distance between his immediacy. There will be a time when
he thinks about his life rather than allow it to flow. He will
learn to dance rather than be the dance.
Being around children reminds me that they feel
their experience moment to moment. When they look they see what
is before them. They do not judge their experience. They are their
experience. This is why they are so delightful even if sometimes
they behave as if this world belonged to them and them alone.
They know this world belongs to them until they are told differently.
This is their real understanding of this world. It is we who have
forgotten. They are there to help us remember.
I am standing at the edge of Lough Allen. I have
come to visit Corry Strand.
This is where I meet this giant among toddlers.
My partner Barbara has met this child before. His Mum had come
to hear a concert or play at the Glen Centre in Manorhamilton.
While Mum watched the play Barbara minded child. When he became
fractious and upset she walked him down the main street. She held
him close in her arms and sang Gershwin. He settled at the sound
of this melody sang softly into his shell like ear.
He quickly learned my name. He quickly gave me the
gift of his trusting heart. It came as a delightful surprise to
find him placing his little hand in mine. He had decided he and
I would take a stroll along the sand. We walked and came to sit
by the remains of a campfire. He told me stories. These were one-word
stories.
These were one word stories facilitated by finger
pointing. He reminded me of the old Zen Master who tells his student
“I am only the finger pointing at the moon.” Here
is my little Zen master teaching me the simplicity of seeing.
One story is “stone.” The other story
is “dog.” Each is direct and immediate. There is no
sense of fear. There is only the continued pointing of the finger.
He makes the stones come alive. He sees them before ever they
have labels.
Too soon there will come a time when he lives in
labels. Too soon he will think he knows what a “stone”
is. Soon he will forget how he once saw the wonder of that “stone”
and that “dog.” He will swap wonder for knowledge.
He will swap what is partial for what is holy. He will become
a rational person rather than the mysterious little being he is.
He reminds me of Yoda in Star Wars. The force is
with him. He is a wise little being with a hand that shows art
in every gesture. He shows me the gladness of the ever-present
moment. He is selfish as all children are. This is their world.
However, they love to share it with you. This world is their playground
and they want you to play here too.
On this shore of Lough Allen he reminds me of that
other shore. This is the one we seekers long to sail for. It takes
us to that timeless shore where we are forever young. My work
is to do what Finn does best. I spend time patiently allowing
myself to enter this mystery of life. He is still held within
it. I am the amateur and he is the pro-fessional of presence.
He is a fount of wisdom. He does not have the words.
He only has his finger. He uses this to conduct dialogues with
this mystery of life. He allows the music of life to play through
his little body. I am only a part of the orchestra and too often
I feel apart from the music. He plays all parts expertly and is
the music.
Time will be when he will forget he is the play
of God. Time will wrap around him and he will be taught to “do
life.” He will be taught that life has to be earned. He
will be advised that it is more important to earn a living rather
than be alive to love. He will be taught his creativity does not
fit with economics. He will become productive and competitive
rather than celebratory and abundant. He will give up his wondrousness
for acceptance.
He will forget that he is forever enough. If he
is lucky he will meet with other wise men and women who will tell
him to risk all for love. He will forget that love is all he needs.
He will turn from love in action to love of activity. His is the
fall from the grace of being to the non-grace of persona. We are
all destined to fall from this grace. He will be loved but he
will feel separate from all that is.
When he is older he will, I hope, take another hand.
He will stand on another shore.
He will remember to look at the beauty of what is without labels.
He will no longer see it the way that we lost in social consciousness
see it. He will, I hope, one day see again via his heart. The
way he sees now. When this happens he will be a giant among men.
He will be Finn. He will be fair of face and fair of hair.
Thank you Finn for your instruction. I am blessed to have shared
your wisdom. You are already a giant among men. You are a child
of the Universe. Never forget little one. May the force be forever
with you and may you stay forever young in that little heart that
you are so ready to share.
From The
Way of Blessings by Tony Cuckson
© Tony Cuckson 2004-2006
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